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Self-Sabotage: It was all my fault!

Ego on a womans shoulderby Angela Counsel

I have been running my own business for nearly 10 years now, and there have been times when my business has been really successful and this is often followed by times when things weren’t so great.  I often wondered why.  I didn’t really change what I was doing, I thought I had the same strategies but what would work one month didn’t always work a few months later. And that little voice of doubt that would appear in my head? Or the little red devil whispering sweet sabotaging nothins’ into my ear? You know the one!

This would cause me to get frustrated, angry and really disappointed in myself and my business.  I really couldn’t understand it.

Then I read a book which had a significant effect on the way I thought about my successes and my failures.  I realised it was my fault, I was sabotaging my business and my success.  The book was “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendrick and this book describes the self-sabotage that many people go through when they are attempting to change or grow.  When you realise the role you are playing, you can stop self-sabotage in its tracks.  Here are some of the ways that you may be sabotaging yourself:


1. You undervalue your skills and your time

This is a big one, particularly for people in the service industry.  You have spent thousands (maybe tens of thousands) on your education, you are passionate about what you do, you are good at what you do, you get results, you make a difference in people’s lives. Yet you charge a rate that barely covers your expenses let alone allows you to make a decent living.

When you under value yourself and your skills, you stop yourself and your business from growing.  How can you grow a business when you are so exhausted from seeing so many low paying clients?  All you will get is burn out.

Decide what you are really worth and charge accordingly.


2. You are scared of being successful

One thing that happens when you put your prices up is that people start to value you more as an expert, they may even question you more and that can be scary.  When you are not sure of yourself, or don’t think you are good enough, you will often sabotage yourself so you stay small.

Once you realise this is what you are doing, you can choose to stay where you are or to grow.  It’s your choice.


3. You are too busy

This is one of the biggest complaints I hear from my clients, and to be honest from myself at times.  I am too busy.  My to-do list is so long that I will never get through it.  Does this sound familiar?

So many people spend their time being busy but they are not being productive.  They waste their time on unimportant and non-urgent tasks and put off the really important things.  This often happens when you are scared of stepping out of your comfort zone.  Prioritisation is key to being productive and stop being busy.

So are you the biggest barrier to success in your business?    Remember what Einstein said – “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome”.  What do you need to change to make a difference?  It’s time to take action, let me know in the comments below what you are going to change to stop the self-sabotage in your business.

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